BE THE BEST PARENT
FOR DIVORCED OR SEPARATED PARENTS
If you are going through a divorce or separation please consider the following: “Even if we can’t change a situation or circumstance, we have the ability to change the way we view the situation.”
“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning
Be the Best Parent:
•If your children are frequently arguing with you, call me and we can discuss how to set limits and understand the importance of consistency.
•If you find yourself constantly nagging, call me and learn about the consequences.
•If you have a toddler or are a first time parent, call me and I can teach you some successful parenting skills.
For Divorced or Separated Parents:
• Learn how your behavior toward the other parent is hurting your children.
•Learn how to make the exchanges a less stressful experience for your children and yourself.
•Learn how you can provide your children the best chance of living normal lives after separation or divorce.
As a parent, you can:
Communicate with the other parent in a way that reduces conflict.
Manage your own emotions so you are modeling for your child how to behave during conflict.
Be optimistic that you can learn to co-parent in a respectful and positive manner.
Know that if you choose, you can manage the conflict so your children will have a healthy development.
If you and your children need help with the above, please call me.
Here are a couple of ways for the entire family to have some fun, feel more connected, and feel a sense of belonging.
Create a "family team". Make up a name, or a logo, and then make a collage or take a picture of your family labeled with the "Team Name”. Frame it or put it on the refrigerator for everyone to see. Maybe have tee shirts made. Children will have a sense that they live in a loving family that cares about each person.
Another way to feel included and proud of your family is to design a "family flag" or a “crest". Take a blank picture of a flag or a crest, and with everyone contributing, design what you want your family flag to look like. Your flag can be anything that means something to all of you. Some ideas might be the first letter of everyone’s name, or favorite animal. Maybe the sports one plays or music you are involved with. Include pets, your favorite colors, or your garden.
Even the youngest person can color or help paste to make the flag complete. It is important to consider everyone’s ideas and that everyone helps create.