Are You Contributing to your Child’s Unhappiness During a Divorce or Separation?
You are hurting you child if you are doing any of the following: Subtly or directly putting the other parent down. Ex: "Mommy/Daddy said you will get fat if you eat too much sugar but she/he doesn’t know how to be healthy. Having a negative attitude toward the other...
Tips for Telling your Children You are Divorcing
Tips for Telling your Children You are Divorcing When parents have reached the decision to tell their child they are getting divorced or separated, Dr. Bingham Newman offers this candid advice. “You have to keep that door or window open,” she said. “You have to...
7 WAYS TO TELL IF STRESS IS WEAKENING YOUR IMMUNE SYSTEM
1. Are you sleeping too much or too little? 2. Are you waking up in the middle of the night with your mind racing? 3.Have you felt angry more than usual? Yelling at your kids or the dog, more? 4. Found yourself irritated with tasks that are usually part of your...
A DIVORCED PARENT’S HOLIDAY GIFT GUIDE – YOUR CHILD’S WISH LIST
Holiday season is here again. If you are divorced with children, the season can be challenging as you attempt to coordinate two households and extended family, trying to meet everyone’s needs simultaneously. As you begin to review your child’s wish list for the...
Children Learn What They Live
Excerpts from a poem by Dorothy Law Nolte If a Child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn If a child live with hostility, he learns to fight If a child lives with shame he learns to feel guilty If a child lives with encouragement, he learns to be confident If a...
5 Ways to Cope with Stress
Exercise – It seems like a simple thing but the research clearly shows that when we exercise the good chemicals in our brain are released. You may have heard of endorphins. These chemicals make you feel happy and come from the pleasure receptors in your brain....
Having a Vision for Your family After Divorce or Separation 5 Things to Consider…
How do you want your children to remember their Parent’s divorce? 1. They attended my soccer games and school functions and acted in a respectful non arguing manner? 2. They allowed me to be open about what I did and what experiences I had when I was at my other...
Forgiveness
Forgiveness can be one of he hardest concepts to understand, but one of the most helpful actions you can take. If you want to move on and give yourself the life of a hero, not a victim, consider the power of forgiveness.Here are some steps to assist you in the process...
Pain is Inevitable Suffering is not
I have recently come across clients who allow themselves to suffer after a painful event in their lives. Maybe a divorce, or a betrayal by a loved one has occurred. The event may truly be painful but holding on to the anger and hurt can only result in suffering. Read...
10 Things Divorced Parents Should Not Do
1.Do Not talk badly, put down, or call my other parent bad names. This makes me feel torn apart and puts me down too. 2.Do Not talk about money, child support, or adult matters. This makes me feel like I have to “fix it”, or that I’m just a possession. 3.Do...